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Countertransference is what happens when a facilit Countertransference is what happens when a facilitator’s own unresolved emotions, needs, or wounds are stirred up in response to a client—and instead of being recognized and managed, they leak into the space. This can quietly derail the healing process. If left unchecked, countertransference can lead to misattunement, projection, boundary violations, or withdrawal—especially with clients who carry neglect trauma, which often shows up subtly and relationally. Some common examples: 🌿Irritation when a client seeks reassurance → This may be a response to your own discomfort with neediness, especially if you had to suppress your own needs to survive. 🌿Feeling disconnected or numb in a session → Could reflect how neglect trauma tends to pull people into freeze or dissociation—which, if unacknowledged, can echo in your own nervous system. 🌿Wanting to “fix” or overly caretake a quiet or withdrawn client → May be an unconscious attempt to soothe your own helplessness, rather than truly listening to what the client needs. 🌿 Judging someone as “too emotional,” “too much,” or “dramatic” → Often a projection rooted in your own repressed emotional expression or social conditioning around vulnerability. 🌿Feeling drawn to “rescue” or be the only one who understands them → A subtle enactment of savior dynamics that can entangle power and dependency. Facilitators: your own nervous system and history are always in the room. A trauma-informed lens asks you to meet not just the client’s wounds—but your own. 🌀 Want to deepen your awareness and learn how to hold space without reenacting these dynamics? The Somatic Plant Medicine Integration On-Demand Training is your next step. Comment SOMATIC and we’ll send you the link. #countertransference #neglecttrauma #traumainformedfacilitation #somaticintegration #plantmedicinetraining #ethicalfacilitation #psychedelicintegration #nervoussystemregulation #shadowwork #somatictools #traumarecovery #facilitatortraining #healingtrauma #spiritualpractice #innerwork #sacredspaceholding #therapistlife #complextrauma #embodiedhealing #healingjourney #traumainformed
What I mean when I say “neglect has been neglected What I mean when I say “neglect has been neglected” Neglect trauma doesn’t cry out. It doesn’t disrupt. It hides quietly — in the people who don’t know how to ask for help. In those who hold space for others, but have never had it held for them. As a facilitator, I’ve witnessed how neglect shows up in ceremony again and again: ✨ In those who don’t emote but dissociate. ✨ In the ones who say “I’m fine” but are trembling inside. ✨ In the ones who never learned to feel safe in relationship — because safety was never modeled. This kind of trauma is often invisible. But it’s real. And if we don’t know how to recognize it, we risk re-enacting it in the spaces we hold. That’s why I created my new Trauma-Informed Masterclass Series 🌿 6 Masterclasses for facilitators who are ready to grow their capacity to meet trauma with attunement, awareness, and sacred responsibility. We’ll explore: 🌿 Psilocybin 🌿 Bufo 🌿 Ayahuasca 🌿 MDMA 🌿 Ketamine 🌿 Tools for Safeguarding Psychedelic Sessions If you’re ready to meet what’s been missed… 👇🏽 Comment Masterclass to receive the details. #traumainformedfacilitation #emotionalneglect #plantmedicinesafety #psychedelicfacilitator #somaticpsychedelics #healingtrauma #nervoussystemhealing #facilitatortraining #ayahuasca #psilocybin #mdmatherapy #bufoalvarius #ketaminetherapy #traumaintegration #masterclassseries #psychedelictraining #plantmedicineintegration #neglecttrauma #saferspaces #traumacare #masterclass
The Grief of Neglect Is an Ocean We Were Never Tau The Grief of Neglect Is an Ocean We Were Never Taught to Swim In There is a unique, aching grief that surfaces after neglect trauma Silence. Absence. Emptiness where something sacred should have been. 🌊 When this grief awakens it can feel like drowning in an ocean of tears. Tears for the child who never got held. Tears for the teenager who had to be the adult. Tears for the ways you learned to disappear. You don’t have to grieve alone.🌊 #neglecttrauma #emotionalneglect #griefofneglect #somaticpsychedelics #traumainformedfacilitation #plantmedicinetraining #nervoussystemhealing #innerchildwork #psychedelicintegration #traumahealing #griefjourney #somaticwisdom #healingincommunity #invisibletrauma #embodiedfacilitation #facilitatortraining #ceremonycare #integrationmatters #saferspaces #traumacare
In over two decades of holding space for thousands In over two decades of holding space for thousands of participants in plant medicine ceremonies, I’ve learned this: Neglect trauma rarely walks in announcing itself. It hides in the quiet ones, the ones who say they’re “fine,” who don’t take up space, who disappear into the group. What’s hard is this: Neglect teaches people to abandon themselves—and in turn, they often get abandoned again in healing spaces that aren’t attuned to these subtleties. 💔 The inability to ask for help, because no one came when we needed it. 💔 The tendency to minimize our needs, because they were never truly met. 💔 The fear of intimacy, masked as hyper-independence. And if we as facilitators haven’t explored this wound in ourselves, we may miss it. Or worse, we may project onto the person as being “too needy,” “not ready,” or “resistant”—when really, they are surviving in the only way they’ve ever known. This is why I created the Somatic Psychedelic Guide — because when we can see what’s missing, we can begin to offer what was never given. 🌿 When you request the guide, you’ll receive: ✨ The 6 Core Pillars of Somatic Psychedelic Practice ✨ A trauma-informed toolkit PDF ✨ A 60-minute workshop on embodied psychedelic care ✨ A guided meditation for nervous system grounding 👇🏽 Comment ‘GUIDE’ to receive your free resource bundle. #traumainformedfacilitation #plantmedicinespace #neglecttrauma #emotionalneglect #invisibletrauma #facilitatortraining #somatichealing #embodiedspaceholding #psychedelicintegration #traumarecovery #nervoussystemwisdom #healingjourney #somatictools #emotionalhealing #traumaguide #ceremonycare #facilitatoreducation #traumainpsychedelics #somaticpsychedelics #integrationmatters #saferspaces
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